My wife and I were discussing the idea of love last night. I came to the conclusion that I love my wife only because she’s awesome. And if she became a jerk all of a sudden (she promised that will not happen) or if I became a jerk all of a sudden (slightly more possible), would we really continue to love each other? I mean, I wouldn’t go and find someone else because of the seriousness of the vows we made with each other. But, loving a jerk? That’s got to be hard to do. Any thoughts?
4 comments:
You should ask Diana, all your questions will be answered.
Here's something I learned from marriage classes a long while back: Love is a decision. We decide to love someone. When someone we love becomes a jerk, we only stop loving them if we decide to stop loving them.
If one, or both of you, turn into jerks, seek counseling. There's no shame in a getting some help. And if you just need a little help, National Marriage Encounter does wonders.
During my first marriage, I realized my husband was a jerk about two months into it, but I stuck with it for 6 years anyway and vowed never to be with a jerk again. Now I'm remarried to someone who's awesome, and won't become a jerk. Well, he might, but a different sort of jerk than my ex. I guess it's all about why kind of jerk you're willing to love and how long you'll tolerate the jerkiness.
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by the end of your marriage if you stick with it...you will have loved a jerk. fulfilling love, loves the jerk. pagans love awesome people exclusively.
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