What's with the whole idea behind "loving people just the way they are"?
I think the goal should be loving people "regardless" of the way they are. And yet, not ignoring the expectancy for personal development. The "way you are" might suck. We are inherently selfish, sinful people, who need to be redeemed.
"So, I'm an adulterer. That's the way God made me."
Ok, God made you. But, I think it's a stretch to assume that he's satisfied with whatever decisions you happen to make.