Honesty is usually the best, but tactfullness can be better. You can tell you friend that he is doing something completely wrong in a tactful way.
This might get back to that "unsolicited advice" topic - if you call your friend out on something, you have to be prepared for them to get mad at you and be offended. Even if you're right, they may not see your point of view for a long time, if ever. You have to be prepared to lose that friend. "The truth hurts" and some people can't handle that.I guess it's a gamble between the slight possibility that they will take your criticism to heart and the larger chance that they will just get mad and continue with their behavior. Then it just depends on how serious the situation is - if they are doing something to harm themselves or others (like substance abuse/driving or taking care of others under the influence), then certainly it's worth taking that chance, but if it's something small, then you have to weigh the options.
haha, what if it's just something that bothers ME?I think you're dead on regarding what it boils down to. I want to be liked more than I want them to improve.
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